
Since this is my last opportunity to write, I obviously wanted to reflect on what this journey has meant to me, what I’ve realized and who I’ve come to be. It goes without saying that the children I worked with by far had the greatest impact on my life, I will never forget any of them and hope that they will in some way, shape or form continue to be a part of my life. I’m also grateful for all the people that I’ve met on this adventure, other volunteers dedicating their time, other travelers, some running towards something, others running away from something, and new friends from all over the world (now with a certain fondness for Canadians I meet in the jungle ).
At the beginning of this experience I remember being quite frustrated, wondering if I had made the right decision to embark on this trip, to give up a job I loved and to come to Central America. Now with certainty, I know I needed to do this, I understand so much more of the reason why.
First and foremost, my relationship with my sister changed dramatically throughout the course of this trip. I think we both would agree that we’ve learned a lot about the other person, and moreover we’ve learned how to work together instead of against one another. I think it took a while but we both found our voice in this relationship and I hope that Deborah realizes how much I do view her as an equal, especially now.
Secondly, my faith in God has been deepened through this experience. I found myself drawn to visiting the chapel to pray daily and feel that I made God more a part of my regular life. My weekend spiritual retreat with the kids also really left me feeling my own faith strengthened.
Next, I learned to stand up for myself in a way I’ve always wanted to, but never figured out how. Without fear I spoke up and out, at first perhaps too much, but later learned to tame this tiger inside of me and have developed what I hope is a permanent ability to voice my opinion, to go after what I want, to not worry about seeming not like “the nice girl”. I learned to fight for me and it was beautifully liberating.
Anxiety and I have always had a funny relationship, one that hindered my life in so many ways. This trip was a dive headfirst in the pool of anxiety-provoking situations for me, and I learned to swim. Now I’m not by any means saying I still don’t have a long way to go, but most importantly I learned how not to let the fear of the fear inhibit me. Tikal was so amazing because it was the chance to realize all that I had been missing by letting anxiety rule. And perhaps even more important, I learned how to settle myself when I start feeling those feelings- a skill I desperately needed and will hold onto forever.
Finally, I don’t know if I can properly articulate this but I came to realize a lot about my own worth as a person and the worth of my love to others. I have so much to give and there are so many people who are open to receiving that love or whatever it maybe. However, I think I really came to feel that I am just as worthy of that love in return (something perhaps I preached, but did not truly believe). I know how much I value others in my life, but for the first time on this trip, I let myself realize, I can be and want to be valued by someone else too. The children at the orphanage taught me this lesson in the most beautiful ways. Perhaps this all sounds egotistical, perhaps I’m failing at explaining this well, but in my heart I know the message and now know how much I want to be (and look forward to being) a mother one day.
There is a lyric from the musical Wicked that says “Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better, but I know that I’ve been changed for good”. As I leave Central America after this adventure I know I have been changed. I do not return a completely different person, I do not return completely over all my fears, I do not return transformed…that wouldn’t be realistic. I do return certain of many things that I want in my life, stronger and more able to go after them. I return with my heart filled with a love that I didn’t know I could feel and the happiness that goes with that. And finally with the knowledge that I was meant to be here at this time in my life…and wherever life should lead me next.